Kids Tantrums, A No won’t be a Yes if you cry!

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Well, I’m sure that most of the moms agree with this topic. Kids and tantrums go hand in hand. I so want to write on this because I am going through a phase where both my girls follow this! And it’s irritating at times!

We all love cuddling kids, they are little angels. But there is sometimes where these little angles turn into little devils when they throw tantrums. These are kid’s behavior which would affect their mental state and sometimes that mood would continue all day long (sometimes)

Patient Parenting:  

Well, we know, this phase is easier to tell rather than to do! When a kid throws tantrums, just be calm and try to explain why they can’t get what they want. Of course, they won’t listen to you, though. But calmly telling them with a low/normal tone would not make them more irritated.

Stop Yelling Back:

This too comes under Patient Parenting. I would like to stress upon this as I was someone who yelled back at my kids when they threw tantrums. They cry, I yell and it made the situation even worst. Stop yelling or getting into arguments! Kids learn to back answer when ‘we back answer to them when they are in an irritating mood.’ This might sound funny, but it’s a fact!

Ignore:

The only way out! Kids throw tantrums because they want something from you and you have said a no! They cry, try to mess things around the home only to get your attention (you try to stop them and they do even more.) When they realize that this is not working they would divert themselves into something else.

Laugh:

This works for my kids. I try to laugh hard while making some funny faces or voices. And they sometimes give in! Because it’s hard to control laughter while someone else is laughing so hard and eventually end up laughing. A trick that I try to use rarely and so work for me.

Give them time:

Just let them be! When they have a meltdown, let them deal with it alone. But make sure kids won’t hurt themselves, others nor engage in something that hurts him. So that they learn to deal with it and after some time, they regain their self-control.

Have a very soft tone:

Now, this is something that I still need to practice! I try to avoid talking to my daughters while they are in a meltdown phase. But there are few times, where I try to answer them (that I usually end up raising my voice and talking in a way that I did not want to)—they cry a little more because I yelled at them. Try talking to them in a very soft tone. The higher they cry, the lower your voice should be!

Kids cannot state why they have Tantrums:

Children cannot reason their Tantrums! They can hardly understand the consequences of it. So we cannot expect a 3year or a 4year to behave properly nor have a reason for their tantrums!

Check for the Trigger points:

Kid’s Tantrums surface out of nowhere! There is always something that makes them anxious or triggers them and so they let it out in the form of a tantrum or have a meltdown! If we can check and have a talk about it to them, it might work. (For me, its chocolates, Phones, Ice-cream)

Divert:

Kids have a very less concentration span! Make use of it. When you know your kid is about to throw a tantrum because you have said a No to them, make yourself ready to divert. A toy that they love, some artwork that they love to do, in the kitchen where they like to play with spoons and bowls, or just go for a little walk. Anything! That works for you! And Yes, sometimes kids won’t listen WhatSoEver! Keeping it real.

This leads us to the last point,

Don’t Give-In!

Whenever they throw a tantrum, they expect that you surrender, and IF you do things would be difficult in the future. They would know the trick that if they cry, they would get whatever they want! I am sure that most of the parents agree with this!

My kids throw tantrums for Chocolates, Ice cream, and Phones. Sometimes I give them, but it’s just a NO! And when I say no, they start! Yes, it is difficult to handle them while they cry but you know what is best for them and you gotta do even if they cry!

Patient Parenting is something I practice and let me tell you, I sometimes lose my cool (it is fine, we are learning too.) Stop Yelling Back, you yelling back is giving your child an idea to give back answers to you! And this brings us to Ignore when we ignore their tantrums they would know that this trick won’t work they would keep quiet. Laugh, when you start laughing in front of your kid for no reason they would eventually laugh too. If they don’t want to come to you then Give Them Time! The more you talk loud, the more they would disobey so Keep your Tone Low. Because they are kids and Cannot state a reason for their Tantrums. But we should always check for Trigger points that led to the start of this. Kids Divert so easily. So we could be ready with something that might interest them.

Note: All these points’ works for me (Sometimes) they are kids and they want to do what they want to do, anyway! And sometimes they just don’t listen. We cannot expect All Good behavior from them. They would hardly have any idea about it. I am sure that we were as crazy as our kids (fun fact)

Kids are kids! They cry, they throw tantrums, they throw things, they say a no when you tell something, they are naughty, they are mischievous, and they fight with siblings and get along with them in minutes. Every day is a new surprise for us. They learn and we learn. They grow

They Fight, They laugh, They Hug!

Love, 

Sadvika Kylash.

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Happiness, you come to me! I shall wait!

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Firstly I would like to thank Ruchi and Dipika for giving me this opportunity to take part in the #SpeakEasyBloggingChallange. Here is my take on the term Happiness. Hope you all like it. If you do, please Like, Share, and Comment down below.

Coming back to the topic,

The idea of happiness is different for everyone. But here are a few points that I would like to stress upon. Guys, continue reading I am sure you will like it.

Starting with this quote:

“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.”― Albert Camus

Allow the life to flow: 

As we ‘look’ for happiness we would often get disappointed with the small idea of ‘what happiness is for you then.’ We should let life going in a ‘flow state’ by being busy and occupied with the things/activates that matter.

We often stick to one event that has not worked our way and would lose our concentration as well as interest in performing other important tasks. This would make us less motivated and disappointed. It is to remember that our opinion about ‘Happiness’ changes from time to time!

Hence, instead of searching for happiness like everywhere, let the life flow!

“Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”― Robert A. Heinlein, Stranger in a Strange Land

  • Happiness is not always about yourself:

I strongly agree with this quote. Life is not about being selfish or constantly chasing things that you want. But when you pause and think for a while of your family/your partner/children anyone you like, for that matter. You would be willing to do anything for them. (Yes, of course, something which is in your limits)

Let us assume, that you got your dream job away from your hometown (Yes you worked hard and deserve the success) but same time you would be sad for going far from them. And your family would be happy for you have to get what you wanted or worked hard for. This is when you realize that despite your loved one being sad for you going far from them, they are happy for you! “Happiness is not always alone

“Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.― Dalai Lama XIV

  • Don’t limit your idea of happiness over life events:

When you try to overestimate happiness over whatever is happening in your life, leads to disappointment. Sometimes, you often don’t get what we wanted and start rejecting things that have not worked your way. You would put in fewer efforts to understand or like because it was not something that you wanted. But as they say, everything happens for a reason! Yes maybe! You would eventually start adapting, accepting, and liking things or challenges life throws at you!

“Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.”― Abraham Lincoln

  • State of mind that matters:

Nobody’s life is perfect! We all have our shares of ups and downs. And when sometimes things don’t work your way, you would be disappointed. Yes, agreed. But the question is how long are you going to be like that..?!

Life is way beyond that one particular life event that has made you disappointed. This is why a state of mind matters. It is You who would decide whether to be sad and constantly think over what has happened or would you rather let it go and get on with life, doing things that would serve the purpose!

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.― Mahatma Gandhi

  • Having memories that bring you joy:

Memories always bring you joy no matter where you are and what are you up to. People who you like will always bring a smile on your face. Memories are something that would pull you out from any situation that you are in. Memories are the ultimate happiness. Having good memories is the ultimate reaction to how you be with people. When you think good, say good, and do good, people would always be there for you!

“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.”

Marcus Aurelius, Meditations
  • Happiness is also in achieving small little things:

I, you, everyone! Dream big. Yes, the ultimate goal is to dream big and work towards achieving it. But happiness also includes small little things that we often ignore or don’t appreciate as much as it should be. Those things matter a lot.

Achieving big is something that would take time, need consistency and dedication. But same time, we all must be having small things that we have accomplished in day to day life, which needs to be acknowledged. For instance, let’s say for me, having a blog post published at a said time or number of blog posts that I wanted to publish in a week, having to fit into an old outfit (I’m sure most of you all would agree), doing everything on your to-do list, having your day pass on without your child’s tantrums (which is rare, though) and so on…

Sometimes it is better we shift away from our thoughts about happiness and work on things, people, or relationships that would ultimately bring happiness to you!

So, instead of constantly searching for happiness ‘let the life flow’ and always remember the fact that ‘happiness is not always about you’ don’t make the mistake of ‘limiting your ideas about happiness over life events.’ It is always said that you are what you think and it is ultimately ‘state of mind that matters. Having people around you who you love gets you to ‘having joyful memories that would bring happiness.’ And lastly, happiness is not always about having a big house, cars, or properties but ‘happiness is also in achieving small little things.’

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How to teach a Toddler at home for Online classes?

Hello guys, I hope everyone is doing well during these tough times. As corona is spreading rapidly, most of the parents are not ready to send their children to school, as there is no vaccine yet.

It’s June and it’s about time that the academic years start and so most of the schools are opting for online classes. The whole concept of online classes is completely new to Parents, Teachers, and Children of course.

But the question arises, from which class should these online classes be conducted? Well, most of the parents that I asked said that this would work for children from Grade 3 and above. They say that children from Grade 3rd and above would have a little more concentration about schooling, classwork, and online method. Whereas, Preschoolers, Grades 1 and 2 would have less concentration and would get distracted easily.

I have a Preschooler, Avantika of Upper KG and she has online classes conducted by her school. And she has been doing good. Yes, they would have a little less concentration but the fact that the teacher is teaching and even her friends are also writing and learning, has got her more excited.

Few tips that worked for me:

  • Have the child prepared about the concept of online schooling
  • Make him/her aware of their friends and they would also learn.
  • Make the space clear for the child. (If the child is sitting on a bed for the classes, make the bed and remove blankets, tidy up the room)
  • The room ventilation works for me.
  • Get the books beforehand so it wouldn’t waste the time during class hours.
  • Preschoolers need a parent beside them, be with them! (Parent doing back and forth would make the child distracted and would have more concentration on what you are doing)
  • Be as excited as the teacher while they write or learn. (Preschool teaching is all about actions and cheerful teaching)
  • Remove toys that distract them. (just keep them a little away from the kids)

As they are little, they need more attention from teachers and parents. Teachers and school management are doing their best to get the academic year going on smoothly. Its parent’s responsibility to help teachers to help our children.

Comment and let me know, what is your opinion on this issue. 

I hope the Corona won’t let the little learners stop!

Until then, see you next time!

Sadvika

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Do you think you are somewhere behind in Parenting?

If you could answer yourself a yes to the above-mentioned question, then this post is for you!

You are doing good mama..! You are good with what you are doing. Motherhood is a sweet journey with many wonderful memories with the little once. I’m sure we would have had some unforgettable memories with them.

Even before we realize that they are our tiny tots they would be growing up too fast than expected. They wanted to do a few things by themselves. Yes, this would be time-consuming and a mess to clean later for mothers. But as they say, we learn from our mistakes and so do they!

Below are a few things that my girls love to do by themselves.

Eating by themselves:

Kids, yes they are a little hard to understand sometimes. While they think they can eat by themselves, they create a mess. This is a little hard to clean up. But this is how they learn! Just let them sit on a chair on the dining table and give them what they like the most. Be it an Icecream or just a fruit. I fell this would be the easiest way to start Self Eating. Giving them little amount at a time would make it more convenient for them to finish. And the happiness that they finished is high and they get super excited.

House chores:

It is OK if we could give kids their list of to-do lists would help them to be more accountable for what needs to be done by them. We often do things by ourselves which can be done by them, just because it would take more time if we tell them to do. It’s ok let it take time. Few chores like, putting away the toys when they finish playing. Or putting away toys at the end of the day works for me.

Letting them do the house chores like

  • Asking them to help me while I put away the clean dishes.
  • Asking them to collect the empty water bottles, summertime!!
  • Asking them to put away pillows on to the couch, if any.
  • Telling them to help themselves for water.
  • Asking them to make their bed. Or try folding their blanket.

We can always allot works to kids according to their age.

Laundry:

Laundry is something that just tends to pile up for some reason. We all would have tons of laundry to do. And this is where the little helpers come to the rescue! Let us go by the series,

  • Ask them to load the washing machine. (Parents guidance needed)
  • While you put the detergent ask them to press the Start button
  • Call them when it is done and unload the machine.
  • Ask them to hand over the clothes to you while you hand them to dry.
  • Call upon the little helpers to help yo u fold the laundry.

Pro tip: giving them their clothes would keep them engaged a little longer and they would want to get the folding perfect.

Cooking:

Kids, sometimes give a very hard time for parents when it comes to trying on some new food. Try to include them in the making. I know this can be challenging. But when you prepare the food with them, they would be a little more interested in trying it out.

Disclaimer: Trying to convince kids to eat is a challenge anyway! Haha

 These are the few that worked for me and I wish this would have helped you as well.

Take care until next time,

Sadvika.

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Proven Ways to Engage Kids in Activities.

During this lockdown period, stopping kids from going out to play areas is a task for me and I’m sure it is for most of the mothers out their. And we are worried about the increasing amount of time spent on smart gadgets during these times.

Well, kids now-a-days spending most of the time on phones which is increasing concerns for the family. I’ve put together some of the amazing DIY activities for kids that happened to be a hit for me. Read further to know more!!

These are the few activities that helped my kid stay away(a little) from the phones and TVs.


Shapes on floor
I just drew some shapes on floor with a chalk and as I was calling out the shapes, I asked my kid to jump onto that shape. She loved it! Well, kids love to jump, don’t they?

Coloring
I drew/traced my kids palm on a paper and drew a peacock from it. She loved coloring it. I similarly drew few more shapes. As she was very much into coloring, I cut out whatever she colored and stick it onto her cupboard.
This made her even more interested in coloring.

Playing with plastic cups
This is my favorite, as it included a lot of physical activity for both me and my kid. I found this amazing activity from Neha, beyondherplatter an amazing mom blogger on Instagram. Do check out her video on the same.


Building blocks
Well, building blocks and Lego’s are in every home and every kids favorite. Both my kids love to play with them for like an hour together.
And so I have come up with color coded/separation task for my younger one. I call out the color and she collects all the same colors and put them a-side. The same with blocks, I call out the color and shape she does accordingly.


Stairs and Number Count
All the kids love to play on stairs. Yes, there is a risk though. But when we are around and its not jumping on the stairs, its ok!
Well, my kids should call out the number and the number name. Like Say 1 one, 2 two and so on.


Kids exercise
My girls get very excited with this activity. They are all pumped up and all set to do some small exercise with me as I make them do. They follow the correct way to do so for sometimes. And then after they do what they like.


Dance
I just put some good pump up music/song and let them enjoy. I sometimes dance along with them showing them some dance moves.
Its always super fun to dance with your kids.

Apart from these few activities, taking them to a park, for a walk or just a cycling round. Taking them to a nearby play areas which would help them to socialize with other kids, play along with them.

I would like to tell that every kid is different. Few things might work for my kids while the same might not work for yours. Enjoy the uniqueness of kids childhood and let them make the mess.

Good luck,
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Review of The Luxuzra Sciences Onion Oil.

Hey guys. Hello and welcome to my @momlifeandlifestyle
Here is the Monday review on “The Luxuzra Sciences Organic Onion Oil”

I’ve been using this oil for almost a month now. I can find tremendous change in my hair structure. Before my hair was very dry and damaged with lot of hair fall issues post pregnancy. Guys, I tell you these post pregnancy hair falls are serious.

I thank Style Crazy for sending me such an amazing box specially curated for me and sending me products to target my problematic issues. This particular oil, I was very excited to use. I took my time to review this as I was curious.

And here I am to give you my honest opinion about The Luxuzra Organic Onion Oil. Usually the onion oil promotes hair growth and stops hair fall. But after using this I also found my dandruff problem to reduce. This amazing oil has a blend of 14 natural essential oils which is even more exciting.

Onion oil, Argan oil, Hibiscus oil, Bhringraj oil, Sesame oil, Jojoba oil, Olive oil, Sweet Almond oil, Coconut oil, Castor oil, Amla, Neem oil, Tea Tree oil ana Cedarwood oil.

I am in love with this amazing product. Highly recommend this for dry and damaged hair.
What are you waiting for, let’s get the hair game on!!

See ya next time!

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Life after kids..

Its been very long that I went off writing. Now, being a mother of two girls, keeps me very busy. If I may, all day and all night that wouldn’t be wrong. A pre schooler and a toddler, both together make things worst. Lol Yes!

Dealing with all the sleepless nights with both the kids and to waking up the elder one for school, is challenging sometimes. They wakeup soon as I wake them? Haha no!!

Even though being in the middle of all this mischief they do, I kind of enjoy it. May be for that point of time I might go all crazy saying they are the naughtiest kids one could ever have. But at times, that make me smile thinking about how mischievously creative their minds are!

We parents can never match their level of crazy creativity nor their energy. They eat good, without any problem?? If I can, hahahaing..! They have a problem to every solution related to food. No matter how delicious a meal may be. My elder one doesn’t show much interest in what I make for her. But, curious to taste/eat what I make for the younger one.

Ok….! They play, play, play and play, get tired and sleep?? Even here the answer is No! Even if their are tired they want to play even more. Or rather just for Mom’s sake sleep for a couple of minutes. I put both my daughters to sleep and before I could rest my back, one would get up… Its every mom’s story, I guess.

Well, going out as a family is not all enjoy types I tell you! Going out on a family dinner typically takes a couple of weeks planning. Even though sometimes something’s go wrong.

Struggling in between me-time, sleep, kids and yes, house chores it is always a happy time with kids. (As every parent says) Well, sometimes it can get soo overwhelming , though..!

Indian Railways launches an Android App for reserving the unreserved tickets!

People, here is something that you want to cheer for! The Indian Railways has tried its hands on the technology and has come up with an Android mobile app that would help the commuters to reserve the tickets in the unreserved category. The Indian Railways takes this amazing opportunity to explore the technology and to initiate the ePaper as in the paperless ticket system.

On Tuesday one senior Railway Ministry official made the announcement for this launch. He said that the Indian Railways has come forward to take the initiative for launching the mobile based and paperless applications for the unreserved tickets which would start from today!

The app is named as the UTS and it would be available from the Google Play store. This Android app is been developed by the Centre for the Railway Information System which is aka CRIS. When the commuter books the a ticked by this app, then he need not take a print out of that ticket but can show the soft copy on the cellphone to the TTE.

Its not just aimed at avoiding the paper work in terms of the green initiative for the paperless ticket system, it would benefit the commuters in a big way. It saves time for the passengers as it would avoid them to lining up at the ticket window!

Once we download the Android app UTS, the user would receive a registration ID code which is used as the electronic wallet. For buying the tickets through this app the money is to be loaded with the e-wallet mobile payment as the online payment or at any counter at a station.

An Official said that the passenger can recharge his e-wallet with the credit card or the debit card on the IRCTC website. Not just booking tickets the passenger can even renew the season tickets by using the UTS app. This was tried in Mumbai suburban station for a check for the app based ticketing system. The officials even said that the BlackBerry devices would receive the app later.

Rapes In India v/s The Society v/s The Policies!

Saw the BBC Documentary!

The ban by the Government is just not done! If the Government wants to Ban something the BAN those Ministers who speak out utter nonsense about Women, Rape and so called a Good Girl.

I stand up; do my part for the Justice! Just a share for this video won’t really change anything or stop the number of rapes in India. It is just the matter of awareness!

Women are just not someone who takes care of home, cook food and do house work! We can do better than MEN!

Parents: Stop saying us how to be, what to Wear and how to Talk! Instead, teach your SON how to behave like a GENTLEMAN!
STOP saying that Girls don’t go out and work it is so shameful. What the hell is so shameful about a Girl Working? Even We contribute to our families!

Government: Give instant Punishment for those who commit such crimes. Such that no one else would even dare to Comment on Women as he did or few Ministers did!

– This is what I share on Facebook after seeing the ‘India’s Daughter’ by the BBC Journalist.

I was indeed hurt! Yes, it pains! Yes I had tears! Government decision for this to ban the Documentary won’t help. If the documentary Ban or No Ban won’t change much. The mindset of the people here in India should change.

People like the Defence lawyers went on to say that Women don’t have any place in our culture! Oh yea?? Who the hell gave you birth? Why did you let her live? Why did you marry a Woman and have Children?

No! It’s not the Women fault. We are not at fault. If the government has to take any action or at-least Act that it is doing something to tackle this then catch them. As a lawyer went on records saying that he would take his Daughter to his farm house and burn her alive. Well, this would be a good punishment for those who commit the Crime!

#ItsHerFault says the accused and the defence lawyers. Why? They both say that a Good Girl doesn’t goes out after evening. Girl should not wear jeans. Girls should not talk to guys. Well then, what do they have to say about a 2 year old girl being raped? What do they have to say for months girl gets raped?

It has nothing to do with the attire you Idiot!!! These views and they should not be entertained any more. Sack these lawyers! Give maximum punishment for those who commit! Actually, the Centre should not only promote the “Swatch Bharath” they should promote the same in terms of the crime.

It should clean the politics. This would be challenge to the government, as of one of the lawyer said on the documentary that about 250 sitting members of the Parliament have pending rape cases against them. I dare the government do this; I would be proud of the government than before.

Why ban Valentines’ day? Why not BAN those Ministers who give such senseless statements. When a minister says Boys will be boys. Then it is the Boy’s fault. Why blame the girl, you idiot Minister.

One Minister goes on record saying that, why should she be out at night at 3am? Well, the time that doesn’t matters, Minister!! Dressing provokes? Well, how would that Minister/Men justify this statement when a 2 year girl is raped!

Well, change this shit mindset Ministers/Lawyers so called Men!

Ministers, India is watching You!

Sadvika. Kylash.

Rift between TPD and BJP after budget allocation!

The rift between the TDP and the BJP would be a cause of worry for the BJP led government. The TDP is the party’s close ally in the south. And due to the series of developments that would led to the ‘breaking apart’ from the BJP.

It all started when the Union Budget that was presented on Saturday by the Finance Minister, Arun Jaitely that had no good package for the Andhra Pradesh made the TDP chief Mr. ChandraBabu Naidu furious on this. Few sources even indicate that it is just a matter of time that the parties would choose separate ways.

The Union Budget allocated Rs. 350 crores to the Andhra Pradesh State and about Rs. 100 crores for the proposed Polavaram project. This allocated figures made the Mr. Naidu angry that he made an effort to make the last ditch by having a ‘closed door’ meeting with actor Pavan Kalyan for his support over the issue.

The “closed doors” meeting went on for about one-and-half-hour. The details were not made public. There is no official statement from the political party nor the actor through a press conference or the press release.

Mr. Naidu said that the central government failed to fulfil the promises made during the polls regarding the funds allocation to the Andhra Pradesh. He felt that it was unfair for giving A.P. less allocated money.

In view of all this M. Venkaiah Naidu, the Parliamentary Affairs Minister on Saturday, disagreed with Mr. ChandraBabu Naidu on his perspective that the Union Budget 2015-16 has failed Andhra Pradesh and few promises that were made at the time of