Kids, who grow up in India!

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This blog post is for #SpeakEasyChallange2.0 with Ruchi and Dipikia.

My India….!

Well, as momlifeandlifestyle is all about Parenting and Lifestyle, I would like to keep my theme almost same for this blog post as well.

Here in India, we mostly have Joint Families or families that are not living together but have really good relations with the other members of the family. In this blog I would like to discuss few of the points that I love about or Indian culture…

 Kids, who grew up in India:

 Joint Families or Nuclear Families who have good relations with other members of the Family:

  • Grandparents and some Amazing stories: Well, this combination cannot be separated. Grandparents always have stories to tell to grandchildren who enjoy a lot. They can spend like hours together listen to those stories.
  • Sharing would be the Early Life Lesson: As in a Joint Family there would be more that two kids and that make them be aware of sharing things. Right from early childhood sharing is thought and they would love to share it too. And with sharing, I would like to go upon the next point..
  • Share few things with other family members: As kids grow up, there would be few things that cannot be share with parents. Then kids could go to a family member to share or to get help. They would always have/get help.
  • Learn to adjust: As kids being kids! They fight, they play, and they laugh. This quality makes them learn to adjust with other kids. As they would have an idea of what the other wants. Our involvement is not needed. They fight and within a minute or so they get back together and play again. As said, kids being kids, after all. (Something that we, adults have to learn)
  • Double the Happiness:  This is for sure! No matter what the situation is one happy moment would make all the difference. And this type of home environment would make kids to be ‘Happy Kids’. And not just the Happiness but the Sorrows are also divided. The most important lesson for kids.
  • With cousins, Time passes by: This is such a fact! As in a Joint Families kids would have first cousins living in the same house. And they would have the best time. They would play together for quite a sometime. And yes, sometimes fights do happen. But they would play among themselves and as they grow up, kids would have the best company ever! Be it going out, chilling, doing some activity or studying — (just kidding) haha!
  • Trips are crazy: More the people, more the fun! This is true in case of joint family trips! They would be ultimate fun for kids. We adult might be interested in visiting different places but kids would be rather interested in playing. Come on, they are kids and won’t be much interested in places and its history. Yes, unless it’s a play area or a theme park!
  • Kids are never neglected: There might be times where the parent is busy with some work and could not attend kids. Kids would have other family members to go to. This makes them feel not neglected. The best of living in a Joint Family.
  • Celebrations are Fun: Any small good news would be a celebration. Birthdays and Anniversaries would be not less than an event to be celebrated. Celebrations in joint families would be ultimate grand events within family. Kids love celebrations, and so do we!
  • Kitchen is always busy: As there would be many people, the kitchen would be always busy with something or the other. And also as kids grow up they would love to have variety of snacks with their cousins.
  • Amazing Advices: People in a Joint Family would never be short of advices. As every member of the family would try to help each other when the other needs an advice or a suggestion. And kids with these amazing people helping with amazing advices would be helpful for them in long termbe it in taking advices or giving one!
  • Emergency Time: Kids learn from us! Emergencies are the times when we have to be with our family. No matter what time, if there is an emergency, we would have help right away! And is something that kids learn and be aware of the fact that they have to stand up for their cousins or family in general!
  • Team work: Now, this is something that not just the kids but even elders would be grateful for. We would have this amazing work balance among the family members that would reduce the stress of getting work done. The whole family would work as a team during the thick and thin times.
  • Great Support System: As kids always need support or encouragement family is always there! No matter what the situation may be we would have our family members support.

Here in the blog post I am not trying to differentiate between Joint Families V/S Nuclear Families but “Joint Families OR Nuclear Families” who have good relations with other members of the family.

 Purpose of this blog is to convey a little message as how Kids in India would an amazing childhood with family always around. A joint family or a nuclear family, fun times, emergency times or celebration time, they would all be together!

As rightly said,

All for One and One for All. – The Musketeers.

Alexandre Dumas

And that is the end guys. Hope you all like it. Do let me know in the comment section below of what you think.  And do share your opinion on the same!

This Blog post if written for SpekEasyChallange 2.0 hosted by Ruchie and Dipika.

I would like to thank them for the opportunity. With more than 25 amazing bloggers in this challenge, it is very exciting to be a part of it and to read others blogs on the same.

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See you all next time!!

Stay connected.

Love,

Sadvika Kylash

Momlifeandlifestyle

Kids Tantrums, A No won’t be a Yes if you cry!

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Well, I’m sure that most of the moms agree with this topic. Kids and tantrums go hand in hand. I so want to write on this because I am going through a phase where both my girls follow this! And it’s irritating at times!

We all love cuddling kids, they are little angels. But there is sometimes where these little angles turn into little devils when they throw tantrums. These are kid’s behavior which would affect their mental state and sometimes that mood would continue all day long (sometimes)

Patient Parenting:  

Well, we know, this phase is easier to tell rather than to do! When a kid throws tantrums, just be calm and try to explain why they can’t get what they want. Of course, they won’t listen to you, though. But calmly telling them with a low/normal tone would not make them more irritated.

Stop Yelling Back:

This too comes under Patient Parenting. I would like to stress upon this as I was someone who yelled back at my kids when they threw tantrums. They cry, I yell and it made the situation even worst. Stop yelling or getting into arguments! Kids learn to back answer when ‘we back answer to them when they are in an irritating mood.’ This might sound funny, but it’s a fact!

Ignore:

The only way out! Kids throw tantrums because they want something from you and you have said a no! They cry, try to mess things around the home only to get your attention (you try to stop them and they do even more.) When they realize that this is not working they would divert themselves into something else.

Laugh:

This works for my kids. I try to laugh hard while making some funny faces or voices. And they sometimes give in! Because it’s hard to control laughter while someone else is laughing so hard and eventually end up laughing. A trick that I try to use rarely and so work for me.

Give them time:

Just let them be! When they have a meltdown, let them deal with it alone. But make sure kids won’t hurt themselves, others nor engage in something that hurts him. So that they learn to deal with it and after some time, they regain their self-control.

Have a very soft tone:

Now, this is something that I still need to practice! I try to avoid talking to my daughters while they are in a meltdown phase. But there are few times, where I try to answer them (that I usually end up raising my voice and talking in a way that I did not want to)—they cry a little more because I yelled at them. Try talking to them in a very soft tone. The higher they cry, the lower your voice should be!

Kids cannot state why they have Tantrums:

Children cannot reason their Tantrums! They can hardly understand the consequences of it. So we cannot expect a 3year or a 4year to behave properly nor have a reason for their tantrums!

Check for the Trigger points:

Kid’s Tantrums surface out of nowhere! There is always something that makes them anxious or triggers them and so they let it out in the form of a tantrum or have a meltdown! If we can check and have a talk about it to them, it might work. (For me, its chocolates, Phones, Ice-cream)

Divert:

Kids have a very less concentration span! Make use of it. When you know your kid is about to throw a tantrum because you have said a No to them, make yourself ready to divert. A toy that they love, some artwork that they love to do, in the kitchen where they like to play with spoons and bowls, or just go for a little walk. Anything! That works for you! And Yes, sometimes kids won’t listen WhatSoEver! Keeping it real.

This leads us to the last point,

Don’t Give-In!

Whenever they throw a tantrum, they expect that you surrender, and IF you do things would be difficult in the future. They would know the trick that if they cry, they would get whatever they want! I am sure that most of the parents agree with this!

My kids throw tantrums for Chocolates, Ice cream, and Phones. Sometimes I give them, but it’s just a NO! And when I say no, they start! Yes, it is difficult to handle them while they cry but you know what is best for them and you gotta do even if they cry!

Patient Parenting is something I practice and let me tell you, I sometimes lose my cool (it is fine, we are learning too.) Stop Yelling Back, you yelling back is giving your child an idea to give back answers to you! And this brings us to Ignore when we ignore their tantrums they would know that this trick won’t work they would keep quiet. Laugh, when you start laughing in front of your kid for no reason they would eventually laugh too. If they don’t want to come to you then Give Them Time! The more you talk loud, the more they would disobey so Keep your Tone Low. Because they are kids and Cannot state a reason for their Tantrums. But we should always check for Trigger points that led to the start of this. Kids Divert so easily. So we could be ready with something that might interest them.

Note: All these points’ works for me (Sometimes) they are kids and they want to do what they want to do, anyway! And sometimes they just don’t listen. We cannot expect All Good behavior from them. They would hardly have any idea about it. I am sure that we were as crazy as our kids (fun fact)

Kids are kids! They cry, they throw tantrums, they throw things, they say a no when you tell something, they are naughty, they are mischievous, and they fight with siblings and get along with them in minutes. Every day is a new surprise for us. They learn and we learn. They grow

They Fight, They laugh, They Hug!

Love, 

Sadvika Kylash.

Momlifeandlifestyle