A Journey that makes You Happy.

This phase is different for everyone. Being Happy is the only way out for us to live the moment and to go with the flow. As my previous blog post was about “Happiness” which was for a Blogging Challenge.

  • In which I discussed,
  • Go with the Flow
  • Happiness is not always about you.
  • Don’t limit your idea about happiness over life events.
  • State of mind that matters.
  • Happiness is also in achieving small things.

You can read the full article about “Happiness, you come to me… I shall wait”

Well, in this blog post I would like to give my take on “A journey that makes you happy”

I, a Mother, like most of you all out there have our shares of responsibilities and on a journey to fulfill family’s needs we often tend to forget what we want.

I am not saying that this is a bad thing or something that we need to change. No!! Family needs us more. But at the same time, this Motherhood journey is also about doing something that makes you happy too.

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Motherhood is Tough or I would rather say, Parenthood is tough for that matter. Both the parents have their shares of responsibilities. And most of the mothers would give up her dreams, ambitions, and goals just to be with the baby. I wouldn’t term this as a good thing or a bad thing. It is just acting according to your family situations.

Here I would like to share my own experience on how blogging became my sole goal to achieve. I am a busy momma of a toddler and a preschooler. And they kept me busy for almost 4 and a half years. But one day it all started with a SpeakEasyBloggingChallange that I have taken part in and wrote about Happiness… You come to me, I shall wait.

I just loved the response that I got for it and then I started taking up seriously. It was like a little push up for me. And then to top it off, I got featured in Feedspot website, as Top 100 Mom Lifestyle Blogs and Websites for Moms to follow in 2020. My blog post about Happiness was Ranked 32,

This has a team of 25 expert bloggers to check and discover popular blogs, videos, or podcasts in various niches. There are various reasons that the ranking is based upon. I am so great full and happy that this has happened.

The only purpose for this blog post is to convey a little message to fellow moms with a bit of personal experience is,

  1. It is OK to take time off when you have kids.
  2. It is OK to go to work after you have kids.
  3. It is OK to have goals.
  4. It is OK to dream and be ambitious.
  5. It is OK to be home after kids.
  6. It is OK not to be home after kids.

What so ever it may be, it is just You, Your Family, and Kids that would matter. Give yourself time and for things to settle down. And you could choose something that would make you happy. This is my Journey that makes me Happy.Sadvika Kylash

Hope this little write up gave you that little push if you needed it. Be the important person in your journey that makes you Happy!

See you next time.

Love,

Sadvika Kylash.

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Kids Tantrums, A No won’t be a Yes if you cry!

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Well, I’m sure that most of the moms agree with this topic. Kids and tantrums go hand in hand. I so want to write on this because I am going through a phase where both my girls follow this! And it’s irritating at times!

We all love cuddling kids, they are little angels. But there is sometimes where these little angles turn into little devils when they throw tantrums. These are kid’s behavior which would affect their mental state and sometimes that mood would continue all day long (sometimes)

Patient Parenting:  

Well, we know, this phase is easier to tell rather than to do! When a kid throws tantrums, just be calm and try to explain why they can’t get what they want. Of course, they won’t listen to you, though. But calmly telling them with a low/normal tone would not make them more irritated.

Stop Yelling Back:

This too comes under Patient Parenting. I would like to stress upon this as I was someone who yelled back at my kids when they threw tantrums. They cry, I yell and it made the situation even worst. Stop yelling or getting into arguments! Kids learn to back answer when ‘we back answer to them when they are in an irritating mood.’ This might sound funny, but it’s a fact!

Ignore:

The only way out! Kids throw tantrums because they want something from you and you have said a no! They cry, try to mess things around the home only to get your attention (you try to stop them and they do even more.) When they realize that this is not working they would divert themselves into something else.

Laugh:

This works for my kids. I try to laugh hard while making some funny faces or voices. And they sometimes give in! Because it’s hard to control laughter while someone else is laughing so hard and eventually end up laughing. A trick that I try to use rarely and so work for me.

Give them time:

Just let them be! When they have a meltdown, let them deal with it alone. But make sure kids won’t hurt themselves, others nor engage in something that hurts him. So that they learn to deal with it and after some time, they regain their self-control.

Have a very soft tone:

Now, this is something that I still need to practice! I try to avoid talking to my daughters while they are in a meltdown phase. But there are few times, where I try to answer them (that I usually end up raising my voice and talking in a way that I did not want to)—they cry a little more because I yelled at them. Try talking to them in a very soft tone. The higher they cry, the lower your voice should be!

Kids cannot state why they have Tantrums:

Children cannot reason their Tantrums! They can hardly understand the consequences of it. So we cannot expect a 3year or a 4year to behave properly nor have a reason for their tantrums!

Check for the Trigger points:

Kid’s Tantrums surface out of nowhere! There is always something that makes them anxious or triggers them and so they let it out in the form of a tantrum or have a meltdown! If we can check and have a talk about it to them, it might work. (For me, its chocolates, Phones, Ice-cream)

Divert:

Kids have a very less concentration span! Make use of it. When you know your kid is about to throw a tantrum because you have said a No to them, make yourself ready to divert. A toy that they love, some artwork that they love to do, in the kitchen where they like to play with spoons and bowls, or just go for a little walk. Anything! That works for you! And Yes, sometimes kids won’t listen WhatSoEver! Keeping it real.

This leads us to the last point,

Don’t Give-In!

Whenever they throw a tantrum, they expect that you surrender, and IF you do things would be difficult in the future. They would know the trick that if they cry, they would get whatever they want! I am sure that most of the parents agree with this!

My kids throw tantrums for Chocolates, Ice cream, and Phones. Sometimes I give them, but it’s just a NO! And when I say no, they start! Yes, it is difficult to handle them while they cry but you know what is best for them and you gotta do even if they cry!

Patient Parenting is something I practice and let me tell you, I sometimes lose my cool (it is fine, we are learning too.) Stop Yelling Back, you yelling back is giving your child an idea to give back answers to you! And this brings us to Ignore when we ignore their tantrums they would know that this trick won’t work they would keep quiet. Laugh, when you start laughing in front of your kid for no reason they would eventually laugh too. If they don’t want to come to you then Give Them Time! The more you talk loud, the more they would disobey so Keep your Tone Low. Because they are kids and Cannot state a reason for their Tantrums. But we should always check for Trigger points that led to the start of this. Kids Divert so easily. So we could be ready with something that might interest them.

Note: All these points’ works for me (Sometimes) they are kids and they want to do what they want to do, anyway! And sometimes they just don’t listen. We cannot expect All Good behavior from them. They would hardly have any idea about it. I am sure that we were as crazy as our kids (fun fact)

Kids are kids! They cry, they throw tantrums, they throw things, they say a no when you tell something, they are naughty, they are mischievous, and they fight with siblings and get along with them in minutes. Every day is a new surprise for us. They learn and we learn. They grow

They Fight, They laugh, They Hug!

Love, 

Sadvika Kylash.

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How to teach a Toddler at home for Online classes?

Hello guys, I hope everyone is doing well during these tough times. As corona is spreading rapidly, most of the parents are not ready to send their children to school, as there is no vaccine yet.

It’s June and it’s about time that the academic years start and so most of the schools are opting for online classes. The whole concept of online classes is completely new to Parents, Teachers, and Children of course.

But the question arises, from which class should these online classes be conducted? Well, most of the parents that I asked said that this would work for children from Grade 3 and above. They say that children from Grade 3rd and above would have a little more concentration about schooling, classwork, and online method. Whereas, Preschoolers, Grades 1 and 2 would have less concentration and would get distracted easily.

I have a Preschooler, Avantika of Upper KG and she has online classes conducted by her school. And she has been doing good. Yes, they would have a little less concentration but the fact that the teacher is teaching and even her friends are also writing and learning, has got her more excited.

Few tips that worked for me:

  • Have the child prepared about the concept of online schooling
  • Make him/her aware of their friends and they would also learn.
  • Make the space clear for the child. (If the child is sitting on a bed for the classes, make the bed and remove blankets, tidy up the room)
  • The room ventilation works for me.
  • Get the books beforehand so it wouldn’t waste the time during class hours.
  • Preschoolers need a parent beside them, be with them! (Parent doing back and forth would make the child distracted and would have more concentration on what you are doing)
  • Be as excited as the teacher while they write or learn. (Preschool teaching is all about actions and cheerful teaching)
  • Remove toys that distract them. (just keep them a little away from the kids)

As they are little, they need more attention from teachers and parents. Teachers and school management are doing their best to get the academic year going on smoothly. Its parent’s responsibility to help teachers to help our children.

Comment and let me know, what is your opinion on this issue. 

I hope the Corona won’t let the little learners stop!

Until then, see you next time!

Sadvika

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